How to be charming?
Oh I wish I knew. Sometimes I think I know. Sometimes I think I am. Definitely not always. Some days are better than others. Surely that is true of even the most effortlessly charming people on earth. Charm is a quality, but it’s also a skill.
I bought this postcard eons ago and kept it on my bulletin board. It’s a good reminder.
Do you agree?
Point n’est besoin d’être jolie; il faut le charme. ”Point isn’t need to be pretty; it must the charm.” Granted that is sort of the David Sedaris* version, but it means charm trumps beauty.
I’d even say charm is beauty. Have you ever known someone “good-looking” who was just ghastly? They don’t stay good-looking for long in my book. By the same token, someone who may not be an oil painting becomes beautiful when you love her. Or him.
So anyone out there with a daughter or son going through an awkward stage, or nervous about starting a new school year or maybe a new school, or if you’re feeling awkward yourself, take a tip from ol’ Sarah Bernhardt, who knew a thing or two about le charme.
Put a twinkle in your eye and and a hint of mischief in your smile. Wink at someone. Compliment her. Flirt with the elderly man at the hardware store. Pretend you’re charming even if you’re not. Fake it till you make it. You’ll feel better. Charming. Nothing’s prettier than charming. Be charming.
*If you haven’t read David Sedaris’ Me Talk Pretty One Day about his growing up in North Carolina, his living in New York, and his moving to France–and you don’t mind laughing out loud–give it a whirl.