Treat Everyone Like Their Heart Is Breaking

Treat Everyone Like Their Heart Is Breaking

We never know what someone else is going through, or living with, or coming from. A smile can mean the world, just as a snide remark can be crushing. This is not to say be a doormat. It is just to say to be kind–to the waiter, to the shop clerk, to the girl on the phone in Mumbai, to the hotel maid.

We never know what someone else is going through, or living with, or coming from. A smile or a kind word can mean the world, just as a snide remark or raised voice can be crushing. This is not to say be a doormat. It is just to say to be kind–to the waiter, to the shop clerk, to the girl on the phone in Mumbai,  to the hotel maid.

Quotation by Kevin Fitzpatrick
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I am curious about who Kevin Fitzpatrick is. Maybe he is the Kevin C. Fitzpatrick who is the great researcher of Dorothy Parker and the Algonquin Round Table, both favorite subjects of mine. This quotation came from a book of them compiled by friend and journalist Susan Soper, whose “Obit Kits” I have written about here. Maybe she or someone will enlighten us about Mr. Fitzpatrick?

27 Comments

  1. Caroline Tucker

    Frances

    I love this!
    Another quote:
    “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.”
    Dalai Lama

    XO 🙂

  2. Love love love this! After having been through what we’ve been through, I am now able to find a great deal of patience with people by wondering, “I wonder if they or someone they loved received a diagnosis today.”
    Thanks for sharing this!
    xxx

  3. frances carstarphen jenkins

    Love this! Thank you for this daily reminder! Love your blog!

  4. Linda Liberi

    Thank you Frances, great advice. Linda for Mezzaluna Biscotti

  5. Molly Ballantine

    Thank you Frances…I’ve always taught my boys the importance of kindness…in fact I’ve stressed that kindness is the most important trait one can have, as I believe if you are intrinsically kind, all those other good traits will naturally flow. And so far, I think it’s worked! xxoo

  6. I love that!!!!

  7. What a great reminder to start the new week – happy to be your newest follower!!

    • Thank you, designchic! And I must say I enjoyed my visit to your site this morning. (Y’all go see mydesignchic.com – it’s great) I especially look forward to catching up on your Beaufort NC house re-do!

  8. Jeanne Gallagher

    As the mother of two girls I always taught kindness and compassion. My fourteen year old proved to me she follows my example when she shaved her head to raise money and awareness for children with cancer through St. Baldrick’s. She exemplifies the next generation of givers and for that I could not be more proud!

  9. Oh, this is so true!
    My mother always taught my sister and me that the mark of a man is how he treats the waitress.

  10. So very true—you never know if that cranky clerk has a child with cancer or some other life changing event happening to them at that very moment. Thank you so much for sharing!
    xo, Lissy

  11. Frances, I “borrowed” your wonderful tender-green rendition for my blog, giving full credit and link of course. Hope that’s okay. It really is lovely: two ways.

    • Oh Peggy, of course, it is an honor. Thank you, x, Frances … and Readers, learn more about Peggy at PeggyPayne.com and her wonderful “Boldness Blog.”

  12. Amen, Frances!

    I know in times of great distress there were glimpses of hope found among those I encountered in my daily life. A smile here, a door held open there, and a “have a nice day!” with meaning behind it was sometimes just what I needed to shake the sadness.

    Certainly a message that is ageless!

  13. home before dark

    My father always said you can tell the character of the person by the way they treat people when no one is looking. Kindness is free. It takes nothing away from you and puts out a lovely light. No to be a doormat. Yes to leading with kindness.

  14. We really need to clone you. Loved this. So darn true.

  15. Susie Quinn

    My dear Frances,

    You truly have a BIG heart…so evident in all of your writing. Thank you for compassion, and wit, too! Your blog is a regular dose of Vitamin B for the senses!
    xxxxx Susie Q

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